That would absolutely not be ‘disrespectful’ m’dear.  Pretty much only you and everyone here in this community know that Dylan was into the Chembros. They are a good vibes sort of band and no one at all would make any sort of connection to the tragedy. I appreciate you being conscientious of all of this though.  Enjoy donning the Chem vibes!  🙂 

Here you go. It had better not be sinister or I’m coming after ya. 😉  hehehe

Yeah, you might want to check out what I said about that in this post from last week. 😉

And I think that goes for anyone that has an idealized fantasy expectation in regards to criteria for how they think a love relationship should be/should have been. Nothing is ever going to live up to the high standards people generate in their minds.  It’s an illusion of how you think things are supposed to be versus the reality of how they are.  So, Dylan would have been predisposed to being set-up for failure after the initial honeymoon haze of falling in love wore off.  He would have been in a suspended state of being in love with the idea of being in love..but then personality conflicts and recurring issues in the relationship would have come into play.  Through experience, he would’ve then understood that “Love” and being a boyfriend to a girlfriend is not enough to sustain a relationship. Acquiring a relationships means you have to go deeper with that someone to sustain true love. It cannot just sustain itself.  It takes work and effort and the ability to care and love someone for who they really are a person – including the bad with the good, their deficits as well as positive traits.  He would’ve wanted that someone for himself but he would also have to be that someone in return. 

You “hate it” because you can’t make something that isn’t working fit into your fantasy expectation like a square peg into a round hole.  What this basically means is, you have to keep dating and experiencing other people until you find someone that clicks and resonates the best with you.  But ultimately though, relationships and the struggles that go along with them aren’t necessarily always what you want but instead, what you need at that particular time in your life. This goes for a lot of things on planet earth as human beings. You are constantly growing and changing and so is your partner. Healthy love relationships can accommodate the changes.  All of the struggles, failures, and successes are a part of your existence’s growth and development down here: Finding ‘love’ is not a free and easy pass.  I find it’s best to not have any expectations. People are often happier when they can just accept the experience given to them but also to not hold on to something that isn’t working.  I feel as though Dylan would be the sort to do this: to hold on and become disillusioned in an unfulfilling relationship all because he wanted the ‘idea of love’ more than he actually did after having found ‘love’. At the end of the day though, it’s ultimately all about loving yourself. He craved love to fix things for him, to fill that empty, sad void, because he did not love or accept himself. That is why I feel Dylan would’ve held onto something even when it was slipping through his fingers like sand, all the while feeling resentful and sadder as a relationship was already over. Grappling with coming to terms with, and the understanding that it had not measured up with how he thought it was going to be like.

Juniors.

This was explored numerous times. You’ll want to search ‘slang’, ‘racism’ or ‘racist’ with the E-C Search for your answer.

And I’ve answered this question before here. 🙂 

That’s true, yes.  Dylan noticed Isaiah under the table and called out to Eric something along the lines of “hey, Reb, there’s n—- over here”.  We don’t know exactly what he said though as eyewitness accounts vary just that he said this.