How do you think Dylan’s family feels about Dylan’s friends being paid for giving away home footage of Dylan eg Nate

Well, of course, we already knew this about Nate selling the video tape that contained the Morning Ritual video footage for $16,000.   And to give a bit of background: Nate made the video for his real dad, Matthew, who lives in Florida to show him what Nate’s morning routine off to school was like along with his friend, Dylan.  Nate gives his reasoning in the article below as to why he decided to sell the rights to his video to ABC News (and allegedly also the National Enquirer for $10,000).  His real father, Matt, was in support of his son doing so which affronted his stepfather, Victor Good, and his real mother, Julie, whom Nate lived with in Littleton, CO.  Then again, Nate was offended by his mother’s reaction to Columbine and her retrospect paranoia of him being friends with the two ‘killers’ so he left home immediately and headed to live with his father in Florida. 

I honestly don’t think the Klebold’s fault Nate for doing what he did with the video/material. Nate was basically exploited by the media in the middle of a desperate, vulnerable situation. Sue and Tom knew Nate well as he spent a lot of time at their house and saw him as a good, close, friend of Dylan’s.  I would imagine they felt utterly sympathetic for eighteen-year-old Nate and the horrible shock and grief struck turmoil he was in the midst of  as a result of their son’s actions. So, Nate’s impulsive decision to sell his video of him and his friend to take care of immediate, dire problems would have been understandable – yes, even in receiving what most people would consider ‘blood money’ just so that he could survive through the fallout of the tragedy and get on with his life making a fresh start in another state and being able to afford college.  We also know based on Sue’s book that Nate had some hand in helping her complete her book, “A Mother’s Reckoning’.  Sue mentions in her book that Nate still pays the Klebold’s a visit to this day when he is in the area. 

Family torn apart in wake of Columbine

Posted: Tuesday, June 29, 1999

By Dn Luzadder, Scripps Howard News Service

LITTLETON, Colo. – Victor Good’s house seems uncommonly quiet as he sits at his desk near a window that looks out on Columbine High School.

Gone are the sounds he describes as those of “normal, awkward teenagers,” which, until recently, included his stepson, Nathan Dykeman, 18, Nathan’s best friend, Dylan Klebold, and Dylan’s friend, Eric Harris.

From a balcony upstairs in the tidy home, Good and his stepson watched through binoculars two months ago as SWAT teams surrounded Columbine. They saw, at that distance, wounded student Patrick Ireland’s desperate plunge out of the school library window.

It is where Good first heard Nathan’s chilling prediction: that Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris were the boys with the guns who killed 12 students, a teacher and themselves, and wounded about two dozen others.

Now it is where Good and his wife, Julie, Nathan’s mother, mourn a different kind of loss: They haven’t seen Nathan since three days after the shooting.

They haven’t even spoken with him since he packed his bags and left home with his biological father, Matt Dykeman, to move to Florida, Good said.

Nathan walked out on his graduation, on the funeral of his best friend and on the only family he has known for the past six years.  (*note that Nate did not attend Dylan’s funeral only his stepdad and mom attended.)

The images left to the Goods were from Nathan’s national television appearance on ABC’s “Good Morning America” where he talked about his two friends.

And from the story that appeared about him in the supermarket weekly National Enquirer.

Both media organizations, Good said, paid Nathan thousands of dollars for his appearance – something Good and his wife warned Nathan not to take, something Good said, bitterly, has helped disrupt their family.

“His ‘Disney dad’ is responsible for that,” Good said.

Good said Nathan was paid $16,000 by ABC for an innocuous videotape he and Dylan Klebold had made. He also said an ABC producer called their home and offered them money for an appearance, and suggested they might make “$2 (million) or $3 million” from a book deal later on.

Good said they weren’t interested.

He said the media’s luck changed after Nathan left his Colorado home.

Reached at his father’s home in Florida, Nathan tells a different story.

“I was broke. I had to leave my truck in Oklahoma where it broke down,” he said. “Now my college tuition is paid for. I’ve been criticized enough for this. What was it I did wrong? I know at least a dozen people who were offered money from the media.”

Nathan says he wasn’t paid for an interview, but for the videotape that Klebold and he made of a trip to school.

He did enter into an agreement with the National Enquirer, which he now says distorted, mischaracterized and misquoted what he said.

The Goods’ trauma may seem less dramatic than the devastation that descended upon the families whose children died or were wounded by the two high school killers.

But Good said it seems as though they have lost a child.

“April 20 was the longest day of our lives,” Good said. “It’s like it took a month or more to turn the page on the calendar, to try to get on with living.”

“I suspect there will be a lot of families who will face something like this,” said John Kiekbush, chief of investigations for the Jefferson County Sheriff’s Department and lead investigator in the case.

“This is the kind of thing that can happen to people who go though these kinds of traumatic experiences,” he said.

“It’s very hard to understand,” said Good, his voice cracking. “Nathan was so close to his mother; he was kind of a mama’s boy. His mother sat by the phone all day on Mother’s Day. The phone never rang.”

Nathan said the fallout came over the reaction of his stepfather and mother when they learned that his friends Klebold and Harris were the killers. He said it was as if they ceased to trust him, to believe him. They were terrified, he said, that he was somehow involved.

“They tore apart my room,” he said. “They threw away my heavy metal CDs, anything that had a skull on it or something like that. I couldn’t believe the way they treated me.” [Source]

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I want to read a shy, awkward and complicated Dylan Klebold. I want to read his outbursts in front of his girlfriend, I want to read a Dylan making a mess of his relationship and then the same Dylan being sweet as he sure was. I want to read a broken Dylan blossoming in front of the girl he chose to reveal his deep deep world. I want to see his dark face, but also his innocent movements when he first touch her, not because he lacked excitement but because it was his first time in everything. I want him to be careful and nice to her, but I also want to see how distant he could be, and how his confussion would affect her emotions. I want to see him fall to the ground and not letting her help him. I want Dylan to become aware his depression hadn’t gone away, despite having a girl.  I want him to push her away after a non-sleeping night feeling sorry for himself. I want to read him realize how bad he needs her and that despite his world was still dark even with her in his life, he finds a little bit of hope in a merely visible future because she loved him and he loved her back. And with her support he could overcome anything. 

This^^

I know there have been a lot of questions about Dylan’s self harm before, but I couldn’t that one. Something I always wonder is didn’t Sue ever recognized it or any other family members/ friends? I mean, considering his journal he said he cut himself 11 times on his right hand, which is a pretty “obvious” spot plus the ec symbol. What do you think? Did he blame rocky maybe if the topic ever came up?

Well, first of all, we don’t know how often or regularly Dylan engaged in cutting.  But since his parents weren’t aware that he did so seems to suggest that he may not have cut too regularly and / or  he was simply really good at concealing the wounds when he did get the urge.   Yes, we know according to his journal that he cut 11 ‘depressioners’ on his right hand (using his dominant left hand). I would imagine that he was probably easily able to conceal a 1 ½ to 2 inch everlasting contrast cross carved on the inside, fleshy palm of his hand where his thumb extended by wearing those finger less gloves (as seen in the Morning Ritual vid) and his trench coat for extra coverage or a long sleeve shirt that partially covered his wrists. But cutters are usually pretty adept at hiding even there most obvious wounds from family..that’s a given in general.  I doubt he could blame his cat Rocky’s scratches with an etching distinctly formed into a triple cross pattern…which also matches his earring too. Oops. lol  Mom wouldn’t likely buy that alibi.

Dylan seemed to be so sweet. I wonder if this was his real personality or it was just a mask

I could say that about a lot of people myself included. We all wear a mask or many masks at one time or another.  We all aren’t always our honest self with others. I think the bottom line here is that people are complex beings with many sides to their personality.  For the most part with human nature, people tend to want to be liked, valued and accepted by others, as Dylan did. The more someone craves acceptance and are people pleasing, the more they’ll compartmentalize and wear a variety of masks depending upon the person/s or social situation and at the expense of giving voice to their honest, authentic selves. The more they hold back and only appear to be ‘nice’ and  ‘pleasant’ with others, the more the ugly or negative aspects of their personalty get pushed aside, stifled and supressed as ‘unacceptable’.  Then, as with Dylan, it seems as though there is a contrasting divide about the person which makes it seem as though they have a fake ‘sweet’ side and hidden dark side. In actuality, people just never got to see all dark/light aspects of his personality-  warts and all.The extreme response of letting go for Dylan was to unleash all the nastiness inside him all in one day in an act of ‘wrathful’ retaliation before exiting the planet. 

do you think more videos and pictures of eric and dylan will be released?

It’s possible more pictures could get released. Sue has gone public presenting at events and has released more never before seen Dylan photos. A classmate acquaintance of Eric’s released his grammar school yearbook photo.  Anytime in the future, more photos could surface from friends or family.   I think it is far, far less likely that more videos would surface.

happy new year lovely!!! may you have a blissful, prosperous year! <3 curious to know, what is your opinion on the "Basement Tapes Recreation" floating around on youtube? do you think it was any good? xx

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re: BT recreation: I was underwhelmed to the extreme. Especially their “Dylan” actor. He did such a meh, lazy ass job of it. I mean, they basically played themselves and didn’t bother to act. The creators weren’t too big on accuracy either even in something as small as their props which they could’ve easily had exercised some realistic control over (i.e. their t-shirts, clothing). I cringed a lot throughout it.  I think if you search around you’ll probably find me rant about this somewhere on my blog. lol

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