what the heck man? I don’t get why are people sending you such disrespectful messages. Treat people with fucking kindness man. This world really goes mad. I don’t see the point in taking the time to send in a hate message. Let people do what they want to be. Let people be interested in whatever the fuck they want. Love your blog Miss Lasting ❤️

Thank you, love. ❣️ Not to worry though.  I find the reactions kind of amusing as I’ve already mentioned all of this on my blog before. 

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Can you refute Cullen’s argument for me? He wrote: “When we published this book, I naively thought the bully-motive theory would fade. But so many kids are invested in the avenging angels myth. Columbiners are industrious cherry-pickers, pouncing on any quarrel or even sadness in the killers’ lives as evidence of bullies. Eric and Dylan had some bad days, to be sure. They probably got in a food fight that left them covered in ketchup. The details are murky” (384). Yeah… they had lack of abuse.

Well, first off, the details aren’t “murky” as he’d easily have us believe with a wave of his arrogant hand. Cullen’s tactic is to dismiss the bullying by simply minimizing it as relatively harmless in severity (compared to others) so as to negate it and push his ‘bullying myth debunked’ agenda to the masses. But it’s obvious just by your quote of him above, that Cullen never investigated too deeply about it nor bothered to interview students who spoke of instances or spoke with Eric and Dylan’s manager at Blackjack Pizza to really get to the bottom of it and find out exactly went on –or didn’t go on-  as he would blankly claim.  No, Cullen, just glosses over the subject altogether and expects everyone reading will just nod their heads in agreement with him that no significant bullying occurred because he totally side-steps it in the book.   Ralph Larkin, on the other hand, wrote an excellent article to refute the anti-bullying bullshit rhetoric in Cullen’s book. He was well qualified to do so too since his book, Comprehending Columbine, spent a fair amount of time discussing the bullying that occurred regularly at the school based off his own investigating.

Nate said Dylan wanted to wait but if Dylan crush had come up and asked him out do you think he would’ve turned her down?

Well, I think Nate was just guessing at why Dylan hadn’t dated yet so he concluded that Dylan was the type that probably preferred waiting until after high school to get involved in a relationship.  Let’s face it, dude friends aren’t the most intuitive when it comes to figuring out their fellow dude friends motives. I don’t think guys really open up to one another as to why they’re not dating anyone just yet when most of their friends have already had a taste of what it’s like. So, in actuality, had Dylan’s crush asked him out, of course, Dylan would’ve gone out with her..and in a heartbeat.  Dylan was definitely not waiting until after high school to date. He simply couldn’t find someone that wanted to date him. :-/ But it’s not like he was going to announce this to Nate, you know..

Do you remember the story I think from Nate saying that Dylan told him he didn’t want to start any relationship in high school? Who was he trying to set Dylan up with?

Nate Dykeman has another opinion on why Dylan didn’t date.
“Dylan wanted to wait,” he said. “He didn’t want to get into anything in high school.”

This statement does not imply that Nate ever tried to set Dylan up with anyone. It was his thoughts on why Dylan wasn’t making any concerted effort to date or have a girlfriend in high school.

What Sue’s opinion on Eric? Did she like him?

Sue’s opinion of Eric from A Mother’s Reckoning:

“Eric was the fourth member of the crew. Dylan and Eric had also met in junior high school. Eric’s dad had been in the military, and he’d retired to the Denver area; the family was still quite new there when Eric and Dylan met. We met the Harrises when the boys started hanging out, and we liked them, although we didn’t see them socially. At the end of eighth grade, Dylan and Eric were both recognized for their achievement in math. When they walked up to the stage to
accept their awards, I whispered to Tom that they looked like two peas in a pod. (This was before Dylan’s growth spurt.)

In junior high, Dylan and Eric watched tons of movies together, and loved to go bowling. One time, they built a contraption to launch potatoes from one side of a pocket park to another. As they grew older, they added to their interests an attraction to girls, computer games, and music, as well as baseball games and concerts. In high school, Eric remained small and relatively slight, while Dylan shot up in height. Eric was older, and got his license before Dylan. 

Their friendship didn’t seem any more intense than Dylan’s relationships with other boys; if anything, I would have said that Dylan was closer to Nate. It did seem more private, somehow. I never felt as close to Eric as I did to Nate and Zack, although he was always respectful and perfectly polite when he was around Tom and me. I don’t remember him asking me any questions, or volunteering ridiculous stories about Dylan, the way Zack and Nate did, but he was clearly smart, friendly, and funny.”

why do you think Dylan kept the purchase as a secret from Eric?

No, you’re misunderstanding me. Okay, you know that Eric and Dylan purchased their guns together, right?  It was a secret purchase in the beginning and the only third party that knew was Robyn, obviously, because she helped make their purchase possible since she could prove she was of legal age. But, like I said, in the beginning, no one else could know their little secret. Dylan ended up showing Nate his gun/s because Nate suspected something was up with Dylan (i.e. he saw the cash purchase transaction with Dylan and Phil Duran behind Blackjack). Dylan decided to show Nate in secret with the stipulation that he could not tell Eric that he was in the know, that he’s seen Dylan’s guns, that he now knew about their guns.   Why?   Likely because he didn’t want Eric getting bent out of shape that he told someone else.

so Nate knew? he knew Dylan bought a gun?

Oh yeah, he knew. He’d seen Dylan giving cash to Phil Duran behind Blackjack and confronted Dylan at the time thinking that he was dealing drugs and Dylan finally confessed it was for a gun. I’m sure that Dylan probably showed Nate his double-barreled shotgun. What was interesting to me here was that Dylan told Nate not to tell Eric that he was showing him his gun. It was in secret and he obviously didn’t want the repercussions of Eric finding out. Eventually, in the last couple of months, Nate had also seen Eric editing his Rampart Range video in video production class on his own free time. By then, the cat was out of the bag. Eric was liking that classmates could see that they had guns.

Thanks for answering questions miss E-C! ;-) gosh you were gone for a day and i was upset i really enjoy reading your answers!♡very well organized i hope you find more time in your busy schedule <3

Aww, you’re too sweet ..but I hope you’re not toooo upset about my scarcity these days.  Believe me, I wish I had time to devote more energy to my blog the way I used to.  It’s just a really tough time for me personally right now and trying to find a balance between everything so it’s healthy.  Thank you for the lovely message. Your interest helps to keep me going.. and in more ways than one. ❤