everlasting-contrrast:

Someone on Instagram sent this to me. Might be Dylan supposedly but I’m really not sure??? It’s way too fuckin grainy for me to tell. This is not my photo but sent to me by a friend. @everlasting-contrast help me out?? I’m confused

Well..I gotta tell you, it sure feels like him to me in the plains and curves of the facial features.  The chin and jawline look right.  The big forehead and the sense of the nose shape and spacing between the brows and the squinty eyes. Sure, the ears are on the big side but Dylan did have big ears.  Considering that his hair was cut super short and cropped close behind his ears, they would stick out prominently on his young face. I’m going to say it’s a really favorable possibility it’s him – Else, it’s a really good look alike with a blurry photo.  That’s the other question to: why is the photo so blurry?  How frustrating is that?!! Hypothetically, this could be another photo that Sue chose to show at her last conference – but again, why would it be so blurry?   So, in response.. I’m leaning toward a yes, it’s him.  So, what did the person on Instagram tell you when they sent it? Did they say where they got it from?  Thanks for the share!
I ❤ a good mystery and this photos certainly is something that makes you pause and go hmm….  haha!   Comments are welcome!

 I reversed searched it and there are no photos found so whoever it is, it’s a new photo that hasn’t been indexed in search engines yet.

ETA:  I’m now doubting the picture due to the ears.  In studying other childhood photos of Dylan, yes, he did have large ears – however, his ears don’t stick out that from his head as much as this blurry photo.  This visual factor has me doubting it’s him now even though the rest of the features seem an agreeable match.

I would love to see Sue but she’ll probably never come over to where I’m at.:( I’d probably shit myself and cry a lot. I love Sue and she’s one of my role models. She’s a tough cookie and I admire her strength and her love for Dylan even after what he did. Idk,I just love that woman a lot.

You never know, she just might show up in your area.  Sue seems to be travelling to many different states and randomly in order to gain exposure and relay her story and message.  So, don’t give up just yet!  Think of it this way, you have plenty of time to mull over and prepare a question to ask her. 🙂  She is such a compassionate, wise, strong and resilient woman. Dylan and Bryon are lucky to have been blessed with such a momma, and her grand kids couldn’t have been gifted a better Grandma.  Sue has become like a universal Mother to us all.  We love our Sue dearly.  She is an inspiration to us all. ❤  

So do you think Eric would be the type to cheat, (you know if he wasn’t interested in the girl anymore) or would he just breakup with her?

Assuming he made it that far along with a steady girlfriend and not just several casual dates. He’d ruin things for himself by testing her and pushing her buttons.  He’d just say and do weird, annoying, scary-implied things that would turn her off and make her think twice as to why she was dating him. He could be kinda of obsessive compulsive about stuff and be super critical of where she was, who she was with. Then it’d be over in no time flat. But yeah, I don’t really see him above cheating if he was bored and frustrated with a status quo, better than nothing relationship. To either spice things up or make his girlfriend suspicious and jealous.  I tend to think Eric would ruin and undo a potentially good thing because ultimately he’d feel like he wasn’t deserving of it..of having love and feeling worthy of belonging and being important to someone. Cheating is just the more extreme end of the self destructive patterns he could engage in to sabotage relationships.

Sue Klebold in Cedar Rapids, Iowa -July 11th- A Symposium of Hope: Suicide Prevention

A Symposium of Hope: Finding Your Role in Suicide Prevention – July 11, 2017

This important community presentation is being offered FREE to a capacity crowd of 200 community members and professionals who work with youth and who wanted to learn more about the real struggles of suicide for our young people.

Keynote Speaker: Sue Klebold, author of A Mother’s Reckoning: Living in the Aftermath of Tragedy, a New York Times bestseller

Sue Klebold is the mother of Dylan Klebold, who died by suicide. Dylan was one of the two gunmen responsible for the Columbine High School shootings on April 20, 1999 in Littleton, Colorado.

In the aftermath of the tragedy, Ms. Klebold remained out of the public eye while struggling with devastating grief and humiliation.  Her search for understanding would span over fifteen years during which she volunteered for suicide prevention organizations, questioned experts, talked with fellow survivors of loss, and examined the crucial intersection between mental health problems and violence. As a result of her exploration, Sue emerged a passionate advocate, dedicated to the advancement of mental health awareness and intervention.

Event is 8:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m. at the Cedar Rapids Marriott

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This event is free, but please consider a donation, which will go to HOPEwalk and Suicide Prevention.

I saw a post on tumblr about how the tcc count Dylan and Eric as victims of Columbine but we don’t count Salman Abedi as victims of the Manchester attack. Although I don’t agree that he is a victim nor do I think Dylan and Eric are victims of the massacre more victims of the school, what do you think? Should Salman Albedi be named as a victim because Eric and Dylan are? They both went out and killed people, both with the intention of killing others (I’m just playing the Devil’s advocate here)

Eric and Dylan were the perpetrators on 4/20 but to a larger extent, they were victims of themselves and long before the massacre. As Brooks once said “Eric and Dylan created this tragedy, but Columbine created them.” On the day, they that had come to the school to get revenge and take back their power by displacing their sense of victimization and setting out to attack their entire school full of classmates – to make victims of others. And in their last final act, everyone’s life was forfeit, even themselves as they leveled the playing field and became victims too by shooting themselves and stealing their own lives away for ever. All who lay dead in the library that day ended up as victims of this tragedy: two victims of the before and 13 of the after.

If Zach hadn’t found Devon and delved into a serious relationship with her, would Dylan have still desperately wanted to fall in love and feel less alone relationship wise? To me, his journal reads that the loss of Zach propelled Dylan into the desire to find someone for himself. But if he never lost all of Zach’s attention, would it have mattered as much?

First of all this is a great, well thought out question. 🙂   I think you’re on to something: that if Dylan hadn’t witnessed his best friend ,who was similarly depressed, falling in love and being transformed positively by having a girlfriend than Dylan might not have taken noticed that he was acutely lacking in having his own soul mate too, which depressed him even more in his sense of loneliness.  
It’s a combination of all these things that Dylan took note of:  1) The fact that his best friend abandoned him and that hurt..a lot.  2) his best friend had replaced Dylan with someone else that understood Zack on a personal, intimate level..ouch (why can’t I ?!? ) . 3) His best friend now had a sense of belonging and purpose being in love, and serving the purpose of a boyfriend to his girl . In Dylan’s mind, there is no higher purpose than to have his love and have a sense of purpose and place in the universe within the context of being with his love.    In this contrast, Dylan felt he lacked while Zack’s had this streak of good fortune having ‘found love’ and being in love.   So, it made Dylan feel even more alone, strange and left out and he concluded that Love with a soul mate is what he needed to fix his life too, the same way Zack had done.   If Zack had never met a girl that changed his life, it’s hard to say whether Dylan would’ve been shaped to desperately need a love relationship as a solution to end his state of suffering.  There is something about the fact that Zack was Dylan’s best friend that he felt abandoned him that set him on this obsessive quest for love. Dylan might not have been so fixated had Zack not met Devon precisely when he did when Dylan and Zack had been so close. On the other hand, If it wasn’t Zack who found himself a girlfriend, then it would have been some of his other friends that began to have girl friends which eventually would also have given him the message that he was somehow inadequate and lacking in life because he himself did not have his love, his own True Love. 

By the way, Dylan mentions “my love” 14 times in his journal.  

To My Love
As a man, a conquerer does his deeds of
greatness,
He thinks he is complete. Yet, the true
great person achieves happiness only when he
has met his soulmate.

Alone, unknown, until they first time they lay
eyes on each other. A true love is hard to come
by, yet the most fulfilling, beautiful, completing
achievement any man can have.
Some have wealth,
some have power, some have great intellect, yet i feel
an infinant # of times greater than those as i
have found my true love.
                V

I love your blog but don’t you think it’s a little fucked up to say “poor kid” Things are different when you are a parent and I get you don’t necessarily like Brooks but at least leave his kid out of it.

It’s a bit hard to ‘leave his kid out of it’ when the very point of the discussion was The Kid that Brooks is about to be having.  Honestly, I find your berating me for sharing my present,  skeptical position on the matter regarding  _ this news that I shared on own blog_ a little fucked up.  

Also, things don’t magically change when you become a parent.  The adults have to be willing to make the necessary changes and sacrifices.  Given his history of fucking up in recent years, feeling sympathy for his kid and wife seems a rational reaction to the news. 

Have you noticed that Dylan tends to look different in every photo/ video ? Like him in the rnn interview and hitmen for hire… like his face just looks completely different

You know I’ve gotten this before.. and well, I’ve gotta say I don’t really feel that he looks all  that different.  He looks to me like the same guy, same features just a bit older with a little more of a thinned out face, due to the weight loss, and the longer hair.   *shrugs*  so, yeah, idk?

Sue Klebold Presenting at SCASN Annual Conference in South Carolina, June 8th

Well, I’d certainly be going to this one if it weren’t so far away!

SCASN Annual Conference – June 7-8, 2017

Pre-conference Day – Wed., June 7, 2017
 “Active Shooter in the School: How School Nurses Can Prepare”
with Mike Clumpner, Threat Suppression Inc.

Geared for: School Nurses, School Administrative Staff, School Resource Officers, and other Emergency Personnel

Conference Day – Thursday, June 8, 2017
Best Practices in Mass Casualty Incidents for
School Nurses and Key Personnel 

The theme of the 2017 Annual SC Association of School Nurses
Summer Conference focuses on awareness, preparedness,
communication, and advocating for mental health.

The Preconference
day on the 7th will consist of a full day “Active Shooter Training” with
Mike Clumpner, Threat Suppression, Inc.
Related topics for the Main Conference Day on the 8th include:
• presentations regarding the optimal care of the trauma patient.
• identification of strangulation injuries
• mental health awareness and suicide prevention

Featured Speaker on June 8th: Sue Klebold,
advocate for mental health and author of New York
Times Bestseller, “A Mother’s Reckoning: Living in the Aftermath
of Tragedy”.

plus..

 Aaron Dix, NRP, MBA, NCEE, C-CP
Director of Simulation Education
Greenville Health System Director
Aaron’s high energy presentations have been featured in
trauma symposiums spanning the state. He pairs years of
trauma experience with a passion for education as well as
for the safety and well-being of South Carolina’s children. A
long-time resident near the small community of Townville, and
a father of four, Aaron can speak frst-hand to not only the trauma response but to the
community devastation in response to a school shooting.

Brian Bennett, BA
Instructor
SC Criminal Justice Academy
Columbia, SC
Brian is a 20-year law enforcement offcer with specialized and
specifc training in the area of domestic violence. He has served
as a state law enforcement police academy instructor in domestic
violence for the past 10 years. He serves as Co-chairman of
a division of the Governor’s Domestic Violence Task Force. Brian has specialized
training through the U.S. Department of Justice and the National Strangulation Training
Institute and has provided training in this area to the South Carolina Board of Medical
Examiners, the South Carolina Legislature, the American Academy of Thermology,
the Governor’s Domestic Violence Task Force and numerous other groups. He has
authored a number of nationally published articles on the topics of domestic violence
and abuse and neglect of the elderly and vulnerable adult populations.

$100 non members  

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do we know if Eric ever gone hunting? I know he said once that he loves animals and he hates seeing people mistreat them but i also feel like he would do it if given the chance too.

Absolutely not. Eric regarded, valued and respected animals as higher than human beings..Let’s not forget that Eric did go hunting one time in his life and that was in sport of the undeserving, worthless symbols of humanity. Eric would never willing injury or harm animals. When he said that it his writings, he may have sounded like he was exaggerating in a humorous manner but he actually meant every word of it.  It would wound him deeply to cause an innocent animal pain and suffering. They were neutral and never did anything to harm him in life unlike people. 

I strongly feel like the occupation he should have pursued in life had to do with taking care of animals in some capacity.  It would’ve calmed him down and neutralized the rage and balanced him out being a care taker of the beings he felt unconditional kindness and love for. I think that animals represented his wounded, vulnerable self and metaphorically he was very protective of them as in defense of himself.

About Brooks having a baby, you said something in the context of “poor kid”. Is he really THAT bad? Not meaning to judge here, I mean, it’s Brooks Brown I’m asking about, but do you think he is that much of an egotistical, atenttion-seeker, and doesn’t have a “rational” side in which he mourns over Eric and Dylan without seeking attention? Thanks!!

Oh, no, of course he mourns over Eric and Dylan. He’s got a lot of fucked up feelings over those two and it’s a real mixed confused bag. But as I said before, the bulk of those feelings surely are about Dylan. I think as much as he’s tried to run away from C  o lumbine and forge a new life by shedding his past, he is still haunted by it..and his childhood friend that he thought he knew. Yet, gentle, laid back Dylan slipped through his fingers and somehow morphed into this monster and right under his nose. So, there’s all this unresolved stuff he wrestles with and thankfully he’s finally doing therapy after all these many years of shouldering it alone and coping poorly.  But aside from his dysfunctional, damaged self, his personality is arrogant and egotistical and tends to cater to his own wants/needs. He knows all of this about himself.   So, I question his level of maturity to be able to take on/share in the responsibilities that will be required for raising a child along side his wife.  To be fully present and not checked out on his video games, or chatting up strangers, or whatever else he wants to do spur of the moment that let’s him escape and makes him feel like lord and master of his universe.  I question the emotional maturity in regards to modeling good fatherly behavior for his kid.  I think he fears he’ll be raising himself a mini-me. (I feel like a girl might’ve been easier for him to as there wouldn’t be such a mirroring thing as with a boy.) I am hoping that he is ready for this when the reality hits him and he’s waking up early and all hours of the night to feed the baby, change the diapers and everything else that dictates that he put his offspring’s wants and needs before his own or that last video game he paused and put on hold.  He does not seem ready himself and seems worried as to whether he is up for the task of being a father to the vulnerable life form he’s contributed in creating – whether that was voluntarily or accidentally.

Do you think Dylan would be the type of bf to apologise first?

Yes.  After pulling away from her and cooling down and having time to think, he’d want to make up and to apologize. He’d miss her and would feel devastated like he fucked the two of them up.  He’d have the tendency to internalize everything – how he acted in their argument together – and would tend to take full responsibility and sometimes to the point of owning it too much as all his fault. Dylan would not be one of those guys that was too proud or haughty to apologize or admit to mistakes.

i know when dylan liked a girl it was really deep for him, but was it for eric as well? was eric only attracted to girls because of there looks?

I think it’s safe to say that Eric was more or less guided by his physical attraction of girls much more so than Dylan, who was observing other attractional ‘features’  too him like her ‘innocent laugh’ and smile or ‘her wit and cunning’. The thing about Eric though was, once he was dating a girl, he could easily get bored with a girl after a while if they didn’t begin to show signs of any sort of depth or challenge to him as a  creatively thinking out-of-the-box sort of person. This is evident in his AOL chat discussions with Jen when he asks her what does she think when she looks up at the stars and she responds with a very unoriginal, cookie-cutter, simplistic response of “I think wow, they’re pretty”.  It’s evident he’s disappointed in his test of her ability to have conversational depth when he says “….I hope that’s not all…”  In taking Eric’s cue, she starts to ponder about the possibility of other life forms elsewhere to which he likes..and says:  “go on.” So, while Eric might’ve thought he’d be happy dating someone conventionally pretty like a bottle blonde Brandi with a curvy figure, he’d eventually get frustrated by the lack of depth which would cause him to sabotage the relationship and she’d want to end it. Then he could complain in retrospect the various ways she sucked and he took pity on her by dating him.  Of course, as teenage boys, physical attraction to girls was of fairly significant importance for both boys but I would say this was a much bigger motivator for Eric. He would focus in on a girl he thought was hot looking and she was then on his radar until he achieved his goal.  Problem is, his way of pursuing wasn’t productive at all and often turned off the girl because he came on strong (aka desperate/needy/obsessive lol)..